Respect your friends

Respect your friends

How many straight boys are going to give it up for the gay boy just because he delivers his pizza,

gets drunk or answers the door in his tightie whities?

Sexuality is something that we consider personal and sacred. As gay men we have been very

vocal about the dignity of our sexuality but do we offer the same courtesy to our straight counterparts? How many of us have been out with friends and thrown around comments

like “just give me 5 minutes with him” and “he’s a screaming bottom, he just doesn’t

know it yet”. Isn’t that the same as a straight guy saying “maybe you just haven’t met

the right girl”, or the straight boy telling the lesbian “you just haven’t had me yet”.

Where is our indignation here?

Amidst all the jokes and the puns there is the very real issue that respect for an others

sexuality is something that should extend to all of us. We can’t demand recognition of

the dignity of our sexuality and then sit back and snicker at the hot straight boy who

“just doesn’t know he loves dick yet” over our lattes.

The question of whether or not to tell your straight mate you have a crush on him is

something that we all need to think long and hard about. Do we believe that confessing

our crush will somehow result in the object of our affection suddenly coming over

all curious and hopping in to the sack?, because quite simply if we believe that you

can’t “turn Gay” then we should also respect that our straight mates can’t “turn Gay”

either. Unrequited love sucks but wishful thinking doesn’t work either.

Respect your friends whatever their sexuality is and be realistic about your feelings

and where they might lead.